Are Your Expectations Misguided?

Today, a blog caught my eye. The author was lamenting the lack of support on the part of her family and friends. She was upset that friends spend money on a cup of Starbucks, but they wouldn’t buy her books–or worse, they bought other author’s books. The author also expected these same people to leave reviews. While I understand to some degree, I really think the author’s expectations are misguided. Here is my take on the matter

Writing for publication is a business. Keep that in mind at all times.
Your family and your friends are not your target market.
Beyond the first sale, you should not expect your family and friends to buy your books.
Do you really want friends and family to buy your book out of pity? You may find they avoid you. Ouch!
The non-writers in your life do not understand the process. Educate them & make them feel a part of what you do.
If you feel as if someone in your life is sabotaging your writing time, stand up for yourself. Keep in mind you teach others what is acceptable and what is not.
Is the noise level of the TV driving you crazy? I bought a part of noise cancellation headphones. Problem solved!
By the way, it’s important for you to put boundaries around the writing. One Thanksgiving, I actually worked on copy edits for my second book. My family understandably did not appreciate it. Lesson learned.
For those friends and family members who actively support you, don’t forget to include them in the acknowledgments.
Want a littl respect? I think Aretha says it best!