If You Can't Walk in Someone's Shoes, Don't Judge Them Either

It's difficult for anyone to walk in my shoes because my feet are so small. That also means it's a challenge for [image error]me to walk in anyone else's shoes as they fall off my feet easily. While we reach out to our friends/family/whoever, to share our lives, we also must keep our judging thoughts to ourselves.

Yes, we want to see our friends happy and sometimes watching their challenges is painful to us. But if we judge them, often they won't reach out to us anymore because they will be afraid of what we will say. It's difficult for us to simply listen but many times that's what people need: an ear. We all have roads to walk, they are unique and some are more painful than others. And while we think we might know the end result of each person's situation, do we really? None of us know what the future holds. 

There are lessons for each of us to learn in our pain. I hate pain. I hate that life means we have to struggle at times. But I also get that those challenges help us to learn and if we use them as opportunities to learn, then they have not been wasted. We also have to let people in our lives learn from their mistakes though. By judging them on what they share with us, we will keep them from sharing the future.