I Believe in Your Limitations! (Not really)

Recently, my husband engaged me in a classical “Yes, But…” debate. You know the one: a person complains to you of a situation, seeing no possibilities of a satisfactory solution. Not being personally hooked by the conflict yourself, you offer a multitude of obvious and reasonable solutions. Unfortunately, every offering is met with a “yes, but…..” and another obstacle is presented.

 

Finally, irritated by this, I blurted out, “You know what, I believe in your limitations! I really do. You have convinced me.” (He knows what I am all about in life, and this was the last thing in the world he expected from me!) What do you think happened next? You got it! Suddenly, he was able to come up with his own solutions! When I wouldn’t hold up the other end of his polarizing fixed position, he no longer had the luxury of fighting against something and had to either be miserable or choose to get out of it. He chose to get out.

 

We all do this, (unconsciously, of course). What happens when there is nothing to fight against? Suddenly, we are the captains of our own ships. Most often, the “enemy” is living right inside of our own psyches in the form of limiting thoughts and limiting beliefs. So we struggle against ourselves and wonder why what we want to create never shows up (or even worse, shows up in the opposite form).

 

If you want power over your addictions, your laziness, your life, then become a one-pointed, unconflicted force of health, wealth, wisdom, and beauty. Get the limiting thoughts out on paper, flood them with love and space and compassion. Begin to recognize when you are thinking these thoughts throughout the day and gently bring yourself back to the one-pointed intention of what you really want. Be the lighthouse, emitting the qualities of being that nothing external could ever truly give you anyway. This will draw to you the life experiences that serve your highest purpose.