One Way Love And Wrecking The Car

In One Way Love, I recall a story that my friend Dr. Rod Rosenbladt told me over dinner one night in Chicago–a true story of how he’d wrecked his car when he was sixteen years old.

Rod had been drinking, and in fact, he and his friends were all drunk. After the accident, Rod called his dad and the first thing his dad asked him was, “Are you all right?” Rod assured him that he was fine. Then he confessed to his father that he was drunk. Rod was naturally terrified about how his father might respond. Later that night, after Rod had made it home, he wept and wept in his father’s study. He was embarrassed, ashamed, and guilty. At the end of the ordeal, his father asked him this question: “How about tomorrow we go and get you a new car?”

Rod now says—and he has lived a lot of life, being seventy years-old now—that he became a Christian in that moment. God’s Grace became real to him in that moment of forgiveness and mercy. Rod has since spent his life as a servant of Christ, as spokesman for the theology of grace at Concordia University and co-host on the White Horse Inn radio program. The grace that Rod’s father showed him didn’t turn him into a drunk—it made him love his father and the God his father served.

Now let me ask you: what would you like to say to Rod’s dad? Rod says that every time he tells that story in public, there are always people in the audience who get angry. They say, “Your dad let you get away with that? He didn’t punish you at all? What a great opportunity for your dad to teach you responsibility!” Rod always chuckles when he hears that response and says, “Do you think I didn’t know what I had done? Do you think it wasn’t the most painful moment of my whole life up to that point? I was ashamed; I was scared. My father spoke grace to me in a moment when I knew I deserved wrath … and I came alive.”

Isn’t that the nature of grace? We know that we deserve punishment and then, when we receive mercy instead, we discover grace. Romans 5:8 reads, “While we were yet sinners, Christ died for us” (KJV). In other words, God gave us his best while we were at our worst. God gives forgiveness and imputes righteousness to us while we are weak, ungodly, sinful; while we are His enemies (Rom. 5:6, 8, 10). Our offenses are infinitely greater than a sixteen-year-old getting drunk and wrecking his car, yet God boasts about pouring out His one-way love on His undeserving children. No one had to tell Rod to be sorry for his foolishness. No one had to tell Rod to be thankful that his dad didn’t repay him “as his sins deserved.” That one act of grace and mercy transformed him—and his whole life was changed by it. Because that’s what grace does.

As Charles Spurgeon said beautifully, “Men are steeled rather than softened by a sense of condemnation. But remove the burden of their guilt and they will be dissolved by love! Forgiving love is the main instrument in transforming men from rebels into friends. Free pardon is a great conqueror.” Grace is the only thing that can transform entitled boys and girls into grateful men and women.