My Child Does Not Want to Go to College
Majority of parents have high expectations for their children and many of times attending college seems to top them all. Although thousands of children will attend college and graduate, there are some children who do not have a desire to walk across the stage on a second occasion. Natural reactions surrounding a situation such as this could be anxiety, anger, fear, and possibly disappointment. All of these emotions are understandable but parents must focus on the needs of their children even during times of frustration.
Before bursting an artery, evaluate the situation. Sit down and speak to your child about their goals and their personal plan of action. If the decision seems to be based upon sluggishness then providing the opportunity to reflect and plan for the future may be a much needed reality check. During this sit down, your child may not be sure of his or her future goals and action plan. You cannot use this moment as an opportunity to force your vision of what you feel is appropriate, but to assist with their self explorations. Purchasing career books, locating career placement test, or encouraging a meeting with his or her guidance counselor will provide direction for their next steps. After discussing the possibilities, continue to follow up with their progress and offer your mind, shoulder, and resources for use.
Throughout this process, remember that there are additional options besides a college or university. The military, technical schools, apprenticeships, and entering the workforce are all viable options. The military provides several branches of service which challenges both the mind and body. Training for a career in the military comes with a free education, a stronger body, and wide world travel opportunities. Although this may not be a traditional classroom setting, every day is guaranteed to be a learning experience.
In addition to the military, technical schools and apprenticeships allow young adults to receive career specific training. Technical schools offer courses in welding, construction, architecture, information technology, cosmetology, business, law, public safety, and etcetera. In addition to providing training for industry specific careers, apprenticeships provide on the job training for electricians, masons, plumbing, painting, heavy equipment operations and several other respectable careers. Acknowledging the skill level of technical careers will lessen any apprehension associated with forgoing a college or university.
At the end of the day, just relax and remember that there are options beyond college. Forcing your long term dreams on your child will only backfire and cause resentment, misdirection, and in some causes failure. Remain encouraging and assist with guidance and action planning to ensure that they are making decisions that suit their personal needs. Trust in the values and work ethic that you have instilled deep within their consciousness, and allow their steps to dictate their future success.
