Been there…done that

Hello Author,


This letter is for you. I’m about to embark on my third year as a published author and I’m still a baby to this profession. However, I’ve learned a few things the hard way. I try to ignore watching others make some of the same mistakes I did and for the most part I’ve kept my mouth shut.


If you decide to read this blog post then you’ve been warned I’m about to give you my opinion.


The world of indie authors is like living in a small town where everyone knows your name.  Even if you’re new the moment your book hits the Amazon 100 you’re known by the “young” and “old”.


In a perfect world everyone would congratulate you and be happy for you. In a perfect world the other authors who know how amazing it feels would celebrate along beside you. The authors still hoping to achieve this goal would be thrilled that you made it and hope that one day they know what it feels like too.


 


This world ain’t perfect, babe. Not by a long shot.


 


The competition is fierce. Jealousy is rampant and the gloves are off. Am I pointing fingers? Hell, no! I did it too once. I got caught up in this tangled mess that gets you nowhere. I let competition and bitterness control me so that I made bad decisions.


BUT I didn’t do it for long. I stepped back and saw what I was becoming and I faced my wrongs and apologized for them. I did what I could to fix it and make up for my shitty behavior. Then I swore to myself, I would change.


Why?


Well for a number of reasons, which is where my advice comes in…


 



Readers like to read books. They don’t just want to read books by one author. They like a variety. So, guess what, there is room for everyone. I know readers who read ten books a week. Every week. Take a deep breath and know this pool has room for more.
Other authors understand where you are and what you’re going through more than anyone else in your life. They aren’t your enemy. They can be your very best friends. You’re gonna need them because your old best friends don’t get what your life is like now. No one does… but other authors.
You are now an author… not a reviewer. At least not anymore. You now know how hard it is to write a book. You’ve gone through your own blood, sweat, and tears to get your baby published and it wasn’t easy. You respect others who have done the same. You don’t critique their work. Dude… it’s just wrong.
Gossip is just that… gossip. Run the hell away from it.
That monthly paycheck you watch Amazon KDP for daily, praying it hits that amount you need each month… guess what… other authors are doing that too. They need money to survive too. They have families too. They have a dream too.
People will hate you no matter what. You’ve put yourself out there. Accept it. Deal with it and ignore it. BUT  DON’T join it. BE KIND to those who aren’t kind to you. There is a reason they don’t like you. It may be an unfair reason but there is a reason. Show them you’re not a bad person. You want to be their friend. There is no reason for enemies here, folks. No reason at all.
Posting a Facebook status about the injustice done to you isn’t cool either. I know this because I’ve done it. YEP! Told you I made mistakes. I made several. This was one of them. I am telling you no matter how innocent it may be and how you feel like you need to explain your actions – DON’T. Because your readers love you and they will fight for you. You don’t want to unleash your devoted fans on someone else. It won’t make you feel better. It’ll make you feel like shit. Because… see #5. That applies here.
Lastly, because I decided to write books because I love to tell stories. I didn’t want to become the president of the drama club. I just wanted to share the stories in my head with others and yes I wanted to make money doing it. I wanted to be a writer. That was the reason I started this. YES I make money. I won’t apologize for it. I’m blessed and humbled that people read my stuff. I still fan girl over my favorite authors and I babbled and got all tongue twisted meeting Madeline Sheehan it is a wonder the woman isn’t scared of my fan girl issues.

 


I probably shouldn’t have just said all this but I see authors make the same mistakes I’ve made and I cringe. I want to stop them and I want everyone to just get along. I’m not a fighter. I don’t like people being mad at me or disliking me. And I don’t want to see others make mistakes they regret.


Remember… that person that you think you “hate” just may be one of the best friends you’ll ever have if you give them a chance.


We are all human.


Humans who all love the same thing… to tell a good story and have someone enjoy it.


 


Abbi


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message 1: by Seleste (new)

Seleste Zemp balderson You are so right. I read probably around 10 books a week and it is all different authors. I love to read it's my passion/therapy. Cudos to you Abbi I love your books. Keep it up; )


message 2: by adnke (new)

adnke So true in every aspects of life. Well said. Love the rosemary beach series


message 3: by Neha (new)

Neha Yes I agree. This was a heart touching blog post. And I'm desperately waiting for your books to come out.


message 4: by Renee (new)

Renee Dyer Thank you so much for posting that!


message 5: by Lorie (new)

Lorie Berger Very true Abbi. So good of you to share your experience in this matter.


message 6: by Amber (new)

Amber We have this same problem in the photography industry. I read all kinds of authors. If the book sounds good I read it!


message 7: by Mary (new)

Mary This can apply to so many people, not just authors. Is it women, in general? Why are we our own worst enemies?


message 8: by Theresa (new)

Theresa Smith Don't apologise for writing this, I'm glad you did! Reading through it (for the second time I might add as I first saw it last night and have been thinking on it) your words couldn't be more timely for me. I looked at my book this morning on Goodreads here only to find I had a new reveiw. Excitement as I clicked to read it only to have my hopes trampled. The three star rating didn't bother me, but the nitpicking did. The reviewer, who is also an author, took great pains to tell all that while it was a good book, there were also heaps of things wrong with it. Yes, the urge was there to facebook my outrage, but I returned to your words and have taken stock. I need to forget about this and remember that there are heaps of people who have sent me messages about how much they loved my book. They are the ones who count and the ones I take the time to thank. What this has taught me though, is to be so careful with my reviews. I still like to let someone know if I liked their book and I know as a fellow author how much reviews matter for a book. I have spent some time going over any reviews I've written to make sure they are all good and help the author, not hinder. Not every book is for everyone, but do we really need to fall prey to the tall poppy syndrome? I have a policy now that I follow where if I don't have anything nice to say, I don't say it. There is constructive criticism, and then there is just plain being critical. So, Abbi, thankyou for your letter and I would hope that other authors take the time to read it and take it on board too. Here's to writing and friendship, Theresa xo.


message 9: by Meredith (new)

Meredith Wild Great post and thoughtful sentiment. I'm fairly new to self-publishing, but I can see that there are so many opportunities for camaraderie among indie authors. We should support and help promote each other, because you're right, it's a pool that just keeps getting bigger!


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