My Young Characters Often Misbehave

Some might read my novels and think I'm encouraging underage drinking and sex. Aside from the fact I'm writing fiction, definitely not all, but for many teens and young adults, experimenting with alcohol and engaging is sex is a rite of passage. It's often a way for them to try to escape problems at home or a way to fit in with their peers. They're at an age where they haven't figured out who they are yet, so fitting in is often their way of feeling loved and feeling they have a sense of belonging.
However, if you notice, I often show what can go wrong when participating in these activities. There are unplanned pregnancies and mishaps from drinking such as fights and near death experiences. I try to put some kind of life lesson in each of my novels.
In The Mermaid and her King, I show how unhealthy it is to be consumed with guilt. I try to get the point across that we're often our own worse enemies, and we can either choose to self-destruct or forgive ourselves and rise above our poor, past decisions, becoming a better person. A reader suggested that I should've elaborated on the effects of drug use or abandonment, but for this book, I wanted the focus to be on the destructive path we often create for ourselves, the guilt we often feel, and the fact that it's possible to move forward and live happily after major loss and grief.
In A Voice for my Soul to Sing, I encourage being your own person and not allowing someone to control you. You're worth having your thoughts heard and your needs met. In Brett and Hannah, I show how easily a female can be taken advantage of or possibly hurt at parties when drinking, and in Dylan and Taylor, I show how close you can come to death if you abuse alcohol and pills. I can't elaborate more without giving spoilers, but the point I'm trying to make is there are many healthy messages that can be found in my writing.