Fighting Isn’t A Failure

True or false: “If you have to fight, you’ve already done something wrong.”

If you’re male, orfemale but educated in self-defense primarily by males, you will say True. If you’re female, aware of the dynamics that most commonly lead to real self-defense situations, you will say False. If you teach self-defense, and want your students to understand those dynamics, you will say, It’s a pile of crap, and believing it could get you killed.

The whole, “If you have to fight” notion has its place. Whe...