i feel like when people say they value honesty they are a...

i feel like when people say they value honesty they are always lying and/or willing to find a way to make 'honesty' ugly by characterizing it a different way--like 'insensitivity' or 'meanness' or whatever. there's always some additional bullshit going on that prevents people from being genuine or accepting of someone who is being genuine, which in turn creates more non-genuine interactions/feelings.