Reflections on Romance

I love many romances, I do, honestly.  But sometimes I'm disappointed by the genre restrictions. 

I was reading an enjoyable romance by an author I love, and the heroine was forced to choose between two men (granted, not my favorite trope at all, because you know what I'd say:  let Guinevere have both King Arthur and Sir Lancelot!)  But this wasn't an erotic romance, so I knew she was going to choose one or the other.  I suspected something a little odd was going on, and then one particular...