Try This Simple Exercise:

Give a compliment to every woman or girl you meet that has nothing to do with her appearance. No “nice hair,” “beautiful,” “pretty eyes,” “where did you buy that skirt?” “great shoes,” “I love that bag.”

I keep trying this and find that I end up saying nothing at all. When I am around little boys, I compliment a lot less. This isn't as much a part of male interaction socially. But it's very much a part of female interaction. I'm not sure if I like it or not. I've had people say to me before that it's not as superficial as it may seem, because fashion is often a choice of the mind. But how your body looks is largely genetic luck, isn't it? I know beauty can take a long time, but doesn't it have to start with something?

What if all our (we women) compliments to each other were on accomplishments or personality traits? What if we said instead:

You are a great mom.

Thanks for helping your sister.

I loved your comment.

You are so smart!

Great job!

Way to ask a good question.

I love your sense of humor.

I think it would change the world. I really do.