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Oct 31, 2013 05:30AM

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Chutchy wrote: "I'm interested in hearing what you told your mother in law! LOL! As for me, since reading MM romance, I can ONLY tolerate a woman's POV if she is a secondary character. I never liked hanging out..."
Let's set the scene first. There were three bottles of wine at the table and three women. They were nearly empty. O.o I guess I needed liquid courage. She already knew I was a reader of M/M and knew I'd been writing for some time, but had just found out I was actually published. I told her I read a lot and I'd watched gay porn. You should've seen her eyes grow as large as saucers. I was quick to say I watched it for technical reasons. LOL I also told her I had a few gay friend who were willing to talk openly with me. Of course, then I told her, "Most of the things gay men do in bed are the same as straight couples, though."
I think that's when I got up to open another bottle.
Let's set the scene first. There were three bottles of wine at the table and three women. They were nearly empty. O.o I guess I needed liquid courage. She already knew I was a reader of M/M and knew I'd been writing for some time, but had just found out I was actually published. I told her I read a lot and I'd watched gay porn. You should've seen her eyes grow as large as saucers. I was quick to say I watched it for technical reasons. LOL I also told her I had a few gay friend who were willing to talk openly with me. Of course, then I told her, "Most of the things gay men do in bed are the same as straight couples, though."
I think that's when I got up to open another bottle.

Here's an idea, show her some gay porn! But them you'd probably need smelling salts for her, lol?

I dont think she was ready to know the truth about GRL or me for that matter LOL
Nobody else knows aside from this incident and my few gay friends who love the stories I share with them, and want to have all the books in Spanish!!!!
The why I read MM is simple for me, with het romance the is no complication other that what the two characters get into, cheating, heartache, uncalled drama. With two male characters the dynamics are so different, they have to deal with the world outside of the couple as well as the relationship. There are more questions to be answered, more soul searching, and yes it is true less drama queen sort of feeling. I love being inside the male characters head, their way of thinking is so different from ours, and I enjoy reading that.
Connie wrote: "With two male characters the dynamics are so different, they have to deal with the world outside of the couple as well as the relationship. There are more questions to be answered, more soul searching, and yes it is true less drama queen sort of feeling. "
*nods* I like that I'm not almost automatically shoved into certain gender roles with m/m characters. I can explore all sorts of relationship dynamics with less judgement than if I did that with a female character. Women get labeled bitchy and whiney if you do X and men doing those same things would be labeled assertive and sensitive. I don't want to be forced into other people's gender assumptions and I feel that happens less when writing from a man's POV than a woman's.
Maybe some day I will be able to break all those stupid stereotypes with a female character.
*nods* I like that I'm not almost automatically shoved into certain gender roles with m/m characters. I can explore all sorts of relationship dynamics with less judgement than if I did that with a female character. Women get labeled bitchy and whiney if you do X and men doing those same things would be labeled assertive and sensitive. I don't want to be forced into other people's gender assumptions and I feel that happens less when writing from a man's POV than a woman's.
Maybe some day I will be able to break all those stupid stereotypes with a female character.
I don't see it happening any time soon, but you never know. :)