DO YOU LET YOUR RIGHT HAND KNOW WHAT YOUR LEFT HAND IS DOING?

There is an old saying “Never let your right hand know, what your left hand is doing.” I first heard this saying several year ago. This morning, I was listening to the radio and callers were commenting on old sayings their parents taught them, which they still adhered to. One young lady called in and quoted this particular saying.
Ladies, many of you may not agree with me, but I wholeheartedly disagree with that mentality. Keeping things from your spouse for what you may consider to be their good, or the good of the marriage, can undoubtedly come back to haunt you. Not in all cases, but why take the risk when the outcome is uncertain?
Some women take on this thought process when it comes to shopping, while still others take it further into the marriage than simple ideas. When you practice something repeatedly it becomes habit; it becomes who you are. That attitude will mold and shape your personality and create an untrustworthy individual.
I am in no way saying that I am perfect, or have all the answers to a successful marriage; and I definitely make more than my share of mistakes. Yet, I cannot see the gain in subscribing to an attitude that is uniquely designed to destroy the trust and belief in a marriage.
Your husband and you have agreed to not purchase any unnecessary items for a time, because you are saving for something really important. You get a bonus on your paycheck and have a little extra money, rather than divulge this information to him, you decide to purchase a new outfit and shoes. ‘Hey, it’s not going to hurt anything. We weren’t expecting this bonus anyway, but since I earned it, I’m going to reward myself.’
You sneak it into the house later on when he isn’t home, and hide it at the back of the closet as if it’s an old outfit. One day you pull it out to wear it and your husband comments on it. You respond: “This old thing?” and laugh and shrug it off. You have not only just attempted to deceive him (I say attempt because oftentimes men aren’t fooled, they just look the other way to avoid the argument), but you have created a tiny wedge between the two of you.
Now that man is sitting there probably wondering ‘why did she just lie to me about something that simple.’ Not realizing that when you purchased it, you hid it because you really weren’t supposed to be spending money on shopping at that point in your lives. The only thing he understands is that his wife just lied to him about something really simple, and now he’s wondering what else you have lied about. What other discretions are you hiding from him? You have planted a seed of doubt about your word, in your husband’s mind.
Not to mention now he’s beginning to feel as if he can keep things from you…after all, what else are you holding back. How far does this back and forth go? What lines are crossed? It can go on and on and get deeper and deeper. But there again, this is just a piece of this writer.
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By: C. Michelle Ramsey
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