I’m Terrified of Moving to Hawaii

If you’ve read my book or spent anytime on my website, then you know one of my family’s goals is to move to Hawaii.

If we had followed the plan, we would already be there but things don’t always work out as planned. That’s OK.

Here we are, a year later and things have started to move forward. We took a big step this week and we put some money down on a place on the Big Island of Hawaii.

It feels so amazing, it feels like things are starting to get real but I have to be honest, I’m absolutely terrified! I should be excited, right?

This is my dream after all but as we keep taking these steps, the fear is screaming louder and louder in my mind. All those doubts are surfacing again.

The last three years have been unbelievable, I have to pinch myself sometimes to see if I’m just dreaming. Despite that, the dream chasing journey is hard and scary. Really scary!

Dealing with fear

We all deal with fear, even more than we want to admit. Fear will always be there and that’s not a bad thing, it keeps us from making rash decisions.

Here’s the thing about dealing with fear, you can control it by taking some necessary steps:

Be certain about what your dream is: Too many times we think we want this and that but when we get serious and really think about things, we realize the truth. Get some counsel, pray about it, get clear.
Put together a solid game plan: Your dream is only as good as your plan. The beauty of our day and age is all the information that is available at our fingertips. We can research our dream and put together a realistic plan. This is one of the areas I’m constantly working on with my coaching clients.
Take small steps: Too often we want to jump, we want what we want right now. Taking smaller steps first helps us see the road clearly, it helps us see any weak points in the plan.

What if I listened to my fear?

As I’m writing this post, my wife is packing her bags. Today is Monday (Labor day) and on Wednesday we leave for a 3 week trip to Kenya, London and Paris.

I will be speaking in all three countries, it’s pretty incredible and mind-blowing to me. If I had listened to my fear this trip wouldn’t be happening.

If I had listened to my fear, I would still be living a life of simply existing. If I had listened to my fear, I would have never gone up on stage that first time and would have never followed my dream of being a speaker.

So many things would have never happened if I listened to my doubt/fears and I know they’ll never happen for you if you listen to your doubts and your fears.

Where are you at now? Where do you want to be?

You’ll never get there if you listen to fear. You’ll never get to that next level if you listen to fear.

List out your fears

I can’t let you go without giving you a little homework. I want you to get a piece of paper or iPad or whatever you use and write down all of your fears related to your dream.

This isn’t a final list, you may forget or miss some, that’s OK. Right after you read this post, make that list, writing down as many fears as you can think about.

Then, keep this list somewhere as motivation and as a planning tool. As you plan out your dream, see if your plan addresses some or most of the things on this list. Trust me, it will help!

What are some fears related to your dream?