Acceptance after Conflict

Hi sweetie,

I thought it would be useful to describe the context of “intention to accept” that you blogged about.

We were discussing how easy it is for us to come together and be open to each other, and attributed this to not feeling threatened or at risk, but then the question arose of whether that was possible in a relationship with a past of conflict and betrayal. Such actions can never be erased – there is no returning to the Eden before the fall, but it is possible to rebuild a post-apocalyptic life. Success here obviously needs changes in behavior from one or both partners, but it also needs intention – the desire to rebuild a relationship with your partner. I like your use of “a certain level of commitment”, because it matches the uncertainty as to whether a reconstructed relationship can be reached, but along with that must be the intention to act in an accepting way.