Why It’s So Hard to Find Your Mate
With all the men in the world, why does it seem so hard to find one guy worth it to date?
Because it is.
Consider the following:
* If you’re a guy, simply switch the genders.
** For simplicity’s sake, let’s assume we would only date people we’d consider marrying.
Religion is important to me, so I would want to marry someone who shares and supports my faith. In my case, that’s Christianity. About 1/3 of the world’s 7 billion population is Christian. To keep things simple, let’s round that number t...
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I realize that over-thinking is an occupational hazard for writers. We are so used to creating the nitty-gritty details of our characters’ lives that we come to presume the same is necessary for our OWN lives.
Well it’s not. Case history: myself.
I grew up as a nerd (still am, by all accounts). Had NO luck interacting with people of the opposite gender (READ: I always struck out with women). I was NOT looking to hook up one day when a meddling friend-of-a-friend insisted I dance with HER best friend at a wedding reception.
BOOM.
Though we lived nearly 2,000 miles away from each other (admittedly both in the USA, though) we found ways to communicate. We’re talking decades ago, of course, so those ways were Ma Bell and the Post Office … and ‘candy grams’ and FTD florists and – well, you get the picture.
Point is, love comes when you’re NOT looking. Sorry, eHarmony and Christian Mingle. When you look, and search, and wonder, and worry – worry is what you get, not wonder. Admittedly, even in today’s relaxed society it may be harder for you as a woman to dabble in the dating pool; shouldn’t be, but there it is. Still, as long as you face the world with your eyes open and once in a while allow a meddling friend to coerce you into dancing, the odds will ‘ever be in your favor.’
Who knows, something may even catch fire.
(Sorry for the pop literary references, but this is a literary site, after all.)