Little Nada Al-Ahdal: Escaping from arranged marriage to act like a proud American
An 11-year-old girl apparently from Yemen made an impassioned online plea for her parents to stop pressuring her into an arranged marriage which gained international attention. In the video, brown-eyed Nada Al-Ahdal chastised her parents whom she called “criminal” and said she would rather die than be married off and throw her life away at such a young age. For many Americans, the idea of arranged marriage is a radically foreign concept. In America, the typical marriage arrangement is one of choice where two individuals pick one another for a shared life. However, in many countries, even to this very day, marriages are arranged with the belief that the sacrifice of a bride to a well-connected groom is acceptable so that a family can prosper through the marriage. Daughters are often traded away into marriages to perceptively strong families so that collectively the whole family will rise in public stature.
The idiocy of this belief may seem remote in The United States, but it is closer to home than many believe. As England produced from the Royal Vagina a new baby, the world clamored to the news like mosquitoes in an early summer evening after a heavy rain. Just for being born to a member of the Royal family, a future King of England was born. The future King did nothing to earn the merit, yet the people of England chose to believe that there was something special about the Royal blood flowing through the new-born baby who has done nothing to earn such a social role. There are many thousands of Englishmen who are far more qualified to be King of England based on merit, yet a baby born of Kate Middleton was given the title because of the family he was born in.
When parents attempt to arrange the marriage of their children, they are attempting to create social alliances that will benefit them in the economic world through politics and status. The individual desires of the marriage party are of a secondary concern. Young women in many cultures throughout the world are expected to marry spouses chosen by someone besides themselves. In the case of this young 11-year-old Yemen girl, she only wanted the opportunity to be a little girl. She does not want to be a wife. She does not want to be the bed partner of a perfect stranger who can do by law whatever he pleases to her body any time he wishes. Yet her parents were willing to trade her away in an arranged marriage so that they could earn through her life improvements to theirs.
People, who think like this, even in The United States, are the type of people who become progressives. They are collectivists who believe that the sum of the social whole is greater than any individual. The parents of Nada Al-Ahdal believe that the little girl’s life is subservient to their needs as a family. The situation with this family is more obvious than the American socialite who tries to get their daughters married to some perceived powerful person like a doctor, a lawyer, or a politician because of the influence of pull that the arrangement will provide. These mentalities have their origin in Europe and are of the same type who camped out for weeks in London to witness the birth of a Royal Prince. The willingness to believe that a family has more merit over other families just because society has said so is the kind of belief that drives a statist society. The belief that value is something that some people are born with as opposed to others is to not understand what gives people value—but to assume that it is granted by chance, political pull, or even heredity. Arranged marriages, belief in Royal blood, or astrologers who believe the character of a child is shaped by the position of the sun, moon and stars in the heavenly sky are the cheerleaders of statism. The hidden epitaphs of this statist behavior is a fear of taking responsibility for their lives, and instead are happy to throw their lives away on chance so that some mystical powers beyond their knowledge are responsible for the misery they issue to their existence.
For any Englishman to behold beyond tabloid amusement the realization that an unproven baby is qualified to be King of a nation is to shrug responsibility away from their lives and surrender their very souls to the state. For a family to wish away their 11-year-old daughter in exchange for some alliance with another family is to shrug away their responsibility as individuals to bring fortune to themselves by their own merit. Their actions are the same as the head-hunters of New Guinea who believed that by eating their enemies, they could gain power over their rivals.
In America these goofy ideas of arranged marriages and worshiping kings was rejected by the Declaration of Independence. Collectivism in all forms was rejected. In Europe the Troubadours from France in the 13th Century were among the first people in the world to reject this collectivist notion of arranged relationships and their evolution became the norm in America. CLICK HERE FOR MORE. The behavior of families in Yemen who have no value for the lives of individual women, even children who are only 11 years old, is a pre-evolution social behavior that belongs in the camp ground of a Neanderthal. And the behavior of England who collectively chanted behind their facades of socialism for the birth of their future king, they are only a step outside that same campfire as they yearn to elect a village chief to instruct them of their life’s direction. The reason that America is the greatest country on earth is because it has a tradition of appreciating merit, and merit is obtained through individuality, which is nurtured by embracing such factors in their relationships. In America the family traditionally is designed to invoke individual growth in their children. In collectivist societies, the children exist to serve the collective family—who is just a microcosm of society at large. The individuality is removed, and sacrifice is the dominate belief.
Little Nada Al-Ahdal from Yemen is only guilty of wanting to be a little girl who has the same opportunities as any American girl has—the right to marry whom she pleases, and perhaps raise a child of that union to be a king if they chose to be. There is a reason that women in Yemen commit suicide when they realize they hate the husbands that their families have arranged for them, their country gives them no way out of the imprisonment. Nada is in the context of her culture a remarkable young woman. When I hear her speak I think of Jasmine from the Disney film Aladdin and it would not surprise me if the little girl did not have a someone special in her life who showed her that great American classic so to inspire her to live like Jasmine and deny an arranged marriage so that she would be free to pursue the man of her dreams. It took guts for little Nada to make such a bold proclamation to the public and I respect her for it.
I would say that 11-year-old Nada Al-Ahdal is no longer a little girl from Yemen, but has taken the bold steps into becoming an American and claiming her life for her own right. It is the American concept of individual recognition that she seeks, and because of her social refusal, she deserves it as she speaks for a countless horde of unfortunate young women who find themselves arranged in marriage by a social structure that sees them as needed sacrifice for the gods of benefit to rain upon an ignorant society. Any society that believes such arranged marriages are a positive practice for their citizens is clearly functioning from ignorance, and thank goodness that within such seas of corrupt fools there are bold young women like Nada who are more like Americans living in the country of Yemen than most Americans living in New York City who are behaving like Yemenites.
Rich Hoffman
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