How to handle rejection without the tears ... eh hem writers, authors, this ones for you!

So the time is here, after long months, editing, re-editing, proofing, and tweaking the novel you've finished and are ready to send out those query letters. And even hat needs to be edited, re-edited, proof read, and tweaked before your actually ready. So after a couple of days sometimes week you're finally ready, and so it begins. If you're like me you researched the crap out of who is who to find out which agents you should send it to and if you're brave which acquisitions editor enjoys reading your genre. That takes time as well, so it's easy to understand how all this time, effort, and heart can seem wasted when the rejections come rolling in. It's easy to get frustrated and even discouraged. The way I see it you either roll with the punches, take them as critisms, and keep pushing forward or just throw in the towel, and prove that you actually have been wasted all your time! It's been my experience though that with a little more effort and research on my part, I was able to get my query to more of the people that were interested in my type of novel. Which really made the rejection feel a lot less like a punch in the gut. I mean you wouldn't turn in a brilliant mathematical theory to an English teacher hoping for great feedback, the same is with your novel.  Listen to what they say and apply the critiques to your work. I got a bunch of regections the first week, most agents said thanks, but it's not my genre, but it reaffirmed my faith in myself because I realized they have thousands of queries a day and they took the time to actually tell me no thanks and most gave me feedback as to why, and often left links to other agents that may be interested. It is hard to keep positive when faced with no, no thanks, I'll have to pass on this, and it's coming from someone who would get a huge chunk of change just for representing your work, just for saying hey I know someone who has a book that readers will buy. I actually got one rejection from an agent that basically said she just plain didn't like my story, I thought to myself how snobby that seemed, because she personally didn't like it, she probably hates romance for all I know, she would have to pass. I thought to my self the heck with that do I really want to share any of my profits with someone like that anyways? I'm not a patient person either, so if you find your self feeling frustrated, but you know in your heart that you have a book people will buy, and you just want the pleasure of seeing your book in print don't write off the possibility of self publishing. I actually Independently published my novel "Life Over Love" While I was waiting for a response from a publishing house that requested my full manuscript, and I just received an email from an agent who said she is excited to read my work. You still have to do a lot of the marketing for your book yourself no matter which route you choose, just don't let any one else make you feel like your work is of less value because of an opinion. The only opinion that matters is yours. It's your heart, time, and skill in those pages stand behind that and you've succeeded already.
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