From DBT for Mental Health Professionals
Validation is more than a mere technique. It is necessary part of connecting with your spouse, friends, family and co-workers. It is a manner of listening, mindfully with an expanding wholeness. A mindful listening, a whole-hearing includes the hearing of words and tones and rates of speech. It is the seeing of postures and gestures and the looking of the eyes upon the face of the other who speaks to you with their face, who speaks from their gaze.