Seriously?!: Own It edition
I see this all the time on certain blogs (generally LGBT centric blogs), but I’m sure it happens everywhere, and it just really drives me crazy. A person will make a statement that is fairly judgmental… and then turn around and say, “But I’m not judging your decisions, or your personal choices.”
Really? Really now?!
Saying, you’re a shitty person if you do x, but I’m not judging you.., and then turning around ten seconds later and further emphasizing how x makes you a shitty person….
Oh well, as long as your not judging me.
I don’t care if you want to judge my personal choices or someone else’s. You have the right to believe that a certain action makes you a shitty person, but my problem is when you don’t own up to your judgement.
It’s kind of like this idea where politicians wanna hide behind the bible or trying to protect your soul when they say gay people shouldn’t get married. Why don’t you just be honest and say, you find gay sex icky. I may think your an idiot and completely disagree with you, but I would at least respect the fact that you were honest with me.
Don’t just tell me the truth and then turn around and lie directly in my face and act like you didn’t just tell me how you really felt ten seconds ago, as if suddenly I have amnesia. I may have a shitty memory for important details, but it isn’t that bad.
The point is… you can have your opinions about me and what I do, and who I am. That’s fine. I may not agree with you, but you have the right to your own opinion; but if you’re going to lie directly in my face and act like ‘I’m not a homophobe, some of my best friends are gay,” and then turn around and do things that are completely and obviously homophobic, we’re going to have a problem.
Oh and in case it wasn’t clear…
I’m so totally judging you…
