WHEN AM I GOING TO HAVE A SISTER?

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WHEN AM I GOING TO HAVE A SISTER?

The other day after coming back from school the Little O. asked me bluntly when he was going to have a sister. I do have to say that he caught me totally by surprise and before I could even gather my thoughts he added:

- “My little sister can sleep under my bed. She will be so small that my space ship (bundle under his bed) will be perfect for her. Besides, she won’t have to be afraid of the ghosts ‘cos I’ll be there to protect her.”

Wow, right!!!

What do you say to that? My logical mind tells me to explain to the Little O. that I’m a single parent and I’m not planning to have another baby. However if I say that I would have to elaborate on well… how the babies come about. I’m a progressive parent but I still he is way too young for that.

Little O. knows and understands some things like that mommy and daddy are no longer together. He also knows that he was in my tummy before he popped out but this is as far as his knowledge goes.

I do wonder at times if we left having the second child way too late. However, taking into consideration the recent events and our divorce, being a single good parent to one child is difficult enough.

So after a little consideration I said to Little O.:

- “I don’t think you are going to have a little sister, sweetie.”

He looked at me and than replied:

- “Well, in that case I need to talk to dad.”

I obviously wanted to know why he needed to discuss the subject with his father and this is what the Little O. said.

- “Daddy’s girlfriend has three kids and I need to find out how to find one girl kid for us.”

Daddy has a girlfriend!!! Daddy has a girlfriend!!!

This short sentence kept ringing in my ear. We had a deal to tell one another if we start seeing someone. I don’t want some random woman to hang around my son!!! I was furious. My brain was racing. Of course whoever the “mystery” girlfriend was, she most probably wasn’t all that random for my ex.

- “I want to have a sister” – carried on Little O. – “so you don’t feel lonely when I’m gone to school or when I stay with dad. Dad said that the new kids could be my siblings but I don’t like them that much. And daddy’s new girlfriend smokes and she will die soon.” (This is something we taught Little O. regarding smoking, that when people smoke they die).

To keep the Little O. calm I made him a cup of hot chocolate and to keep myself calm I got myself a glass of wine.

Of course I was jealous in a way but most of all I was pissed off that the former love of my life, the father of my child didn’t have enough guts to tell me that he was seeing the woman who broke us, broke me and left me questioning myself.

So this is what I know about the other woman:

- She is an idiot.

- She destroys families.

- She is not very well educated.

- She has 3 kids, each one with a different man. (That one thing says a lot)

- She smokes (Apparently my ex hates people who smoke but who knew).

- She has no breasts. (Apparently my ex likes women with nice lungs. Oh well, people change.)

- She was the reason we got divorced.

- She has no ambition.

- In short, she is a total opposition to me. But still someone worth the divorce. (I’m not sure what enticed my ex but I can’t imagine it was the sex. Having sex with one kid around the house is difficult. What about when you have three little ones running around the house?)

I had no idea what my next move would be or even should be. Shall I contact my divorce lawyer? Shall I limit the Big O.’s contact with the Little O. (I’m guessing with time the contact will be limited now he has got three more kids to look after)?

The Little O. noticed that I was upset and worried.

So he came over, gave me a kiss on the tip of my nose and whispered in my ear: – “Don’t worry mommy. We will find me a sister and you never be lonely again.”