Intuition Points Towards Love

Lately on my Psych Central blog, Divine Intuition, I have been talking about love and relationships. In case you haven't visited that site, I wanted to share these pieces with you here as well. Read on for my advice for...
...People Pleasers
Does your relationship make you happy? The quick answer to that question should be yes. The answer after long reflection should still be yes. There might be a few caveats, “most of the time,” or “except for this one thing, but we’re working on that.” Overall, though, you should feel safe, secure, and satisfied.

This article is for those who say no, whether it’s an easy no, or an uneasy yes that turns into a no upon reflection. More specifically, this article is for people who aren’t just unhappy in their current relationship, but usually end up unhappy in all their relationships.

Even those who love us the most will act selfishly sometimes. They’ll ask, manipulate or beg for their needs to come first. When partners take turns supporting each other, with periods of equality and contentment in between, that’s a normal, healthy relationship. Yet plenty of smart people get trapped in cycles where they’re run ragged accommodating others’ needs, and are never taken care of in return.

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...The Serial Dater
Playing the field has its own merits.
This world is so full of fascinating people, why not get to know a bunch of them? Exploring relationships with people who challenge you or come from very different backgrounds can be very character building. The breakups might be tough, or they might be easy-come-easy-go, but each holds a lesson. Even if a relationship is short, it can still teach you a lot about yourself.
But for the serial daters who are always dating but never exactly dating someone special, there might be a deeper issue at hand. I’ll be blunt: can you handle being alone?
Lasting love comes from two people with full lives joining together to make each other even happier. Relationships based on using someone – anyone – to fill emotional emptiness do not exactly have fairytale endings.

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...The Perpetually Broken-Hearted
I believe in luck. And I know that some people are just plain unlucky in love. That’s what all of the best tragic movies are about, right? The kind when forces beyond the main characters’ control conspire to keep them apart?

But not all heartbreaks are quite so epic. In the real world, breakups tend to end up less in the star-crossed category and more in the poorly-matched-from-the-start category. What is a perpetual lonely heart to do?

Like I said, I believe in luck – and our ability to change it.

We tend to make and break relationships in patterns. From family to friends, crushes to coworkers, we recreate the same dynamics over and over again, subconsciously hoping that we’ll finally get it right this time. The key is to observe your patterns and take control back. Oprah has a favorite quote related to this idea inspired by Maya Angelou: “When someone shows you who they are, believe them.”

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...The One Who Should Move On
Some of the most rewarding relationships in our lives come with an expiration date. It is sad, but true.

Clients come to me feeling agitated, stagnant, trapped. They can’t put their finger on what the problem is, but suddenly their normal lives have become uncomfortable, even unbearable. Sometimes the solution turns out to be a move, career change or charitable work. Other times, the answer is to redefine a romantic relationship.

If this is ringing a bell for you, maybe making your stomach clench or giving you goose bumps, consult your intuition for further guidance.

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