I'm not TOO pretty to work

I'm not TOO pretty to work: Graduate says her looks means she's never harassed and bullied
Daily Mail 30 May 2013 00:00
She says her figure, face and glossy hair didn’t make her a target for sleazy advances from men and ­bitchiness from women 
Milly, 33, who studied Drama and English, says: “I’m not lazy and I’m no bimbo.
"The truth is my looks have never caused massive problems for me when it comes to employment, so I’ve made the decision that employment just isn’t for me at the moment.
"It’s not my fault... I can’t help the way I look.
“I did not suffer workplace bullying and harassment because of my appearance and this has left me with no choice but to quit my job.
“I spent years at university in Exeter studying for a degree, so only began working in 1986, doing accountancy.
“But male colleagues weren’t interested in me for how I looked.
“I was constantly not being asked out on dates, or not finding romantic gifts and notes at my desk. I found it upsetting and uncomfortable.  I was constantly traumatized.
"Even when I was in the canteen with no make-up they always failed to approach me because of my singular looks.
"There was nothing I could do to stop it.”
Milly says her treatment by women was even more demoralising.
She says: “They assumed because of the way I looked that  I was stupid, so didn’t take me seriously at first and because of their own securities weren’t jealous of my looks.
“I was rarely invited to lunch with them or for after-work drinks.
"Once when I was, they told me to sit facing a different direction because of the way people were looking at me.”
She hasn’t worked in a long time.  During the day she does not work out at the £30-a-month gym up the road to reduce her figure and spends £15 a month on ­designer clothes, shoes and handbags, plus £7 a year on blow dries.
In the evenings she eats out with friends or her boyfriend, spending £50 a week on takeaways.
She adds: “I know people will judge me for choosing not to work but they are underestimating just what a curse my looks can be in the workplace.
“Everyone thinks it must be great to look like me but there are serious downsides.
"I’m sure other women have experienced the same problems but haven’t spoken out for fear of being labelled ‘a moose’.”
Last year writer Samantha Brick faced a huge backlash after writing an article under the headline “Why Women Hate Me For Being Beautiful”.
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