Reader Question of the Week: My Husband Doesn’t Find Me Attractive

Every weekend I like to post a question someone sends in and let you readers have a go at it. This week’s question comes from a reader, who needs some advice:

I have always struggled with my weight. I go up and down by 10 pounds quite a lot. And since the babies came, my weight is now on average about 25 pounds heavier than it was when we got married.

My husband came to me recently and said that he just doesn’t get turned on by looking at me anymore. He doesn’t find me attractive.

That devastated me, and I told him, and he’s apologized. But I can’t get that thought out of my head that he doesn’t like how I look. I want to lose weight, but it really isn’t easy. And I find myself propositioning him for sex, but he often says no. What do I do?

What do you think?  How should she handle this?

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