Shoulds VS Joy

Writing is how I love to express. My thoughts explode and ooze from my brain, are filtered through my heart, and then shoot out down my arms to my fingers on the keyboard. That connection with the heart makes all the difference.

We don’t need any more talking heads. We need heads and hearts that align, and that are not afraid to speak the resulting truth.

Every day I talk with folks who are fired up about their business, their life, and their book project. It’s a joy. I’ve also been chatting with some people who come to me with a book idea that will serve or grow their current business, yet the enthusiasm in their voice just isn’t there. They can recount “facts” and “reasons” why this would be a good thing for them to do, but the joy isn’t there. As the conversation progresses, and they relax into their heart, and they realize they are in a safe, nurturing space with me, the energy shifts and they blurt out their mission, their true purpose.

“What I really want to do is…” and then they passionately explain what they really want to write about, and what they really want to do in the world. Sometimes it surprises them that the truth bubbled up. Breaking through the “shoulds” is very rewarding. It’s my job as your coach to allow that processing space for you to come to terms with you.

The dialogue really is between you and you; I just facilitate. I’m good at it. I love the awakening, the vulnerability, the trust that is shared in those chats. I appreciate the gratitude that is expressed. That fills my cup.

Books changes lives, and the first life it affects is that of the author.

Writing a book is a transformational journey. Having the courage to put it out there shifts your posture.

Right now, sit up a little straighter. Do you have something to say? What’s holding you back? What are you afraid of? What are you waiting for? Close your eyes and put your hand on your heart. What is it saying?

I love visual aids. I have the word “joy” tattooed on my wrist, facing me. As I type I can look down and see that reminder to do what brings me joy.

If your book idea does not bring you joy, don’t do it. Yes, writing a book takes some work and dedication, and yes, I help you through idea overwhelm, hidden fears, time constraints, organization, structure, grammar, etc. Those issues are not hurdles at all. It’s just new territory for you and I’m your guide. We blaze the trail together.

If the overall purpose and vision does not bring you joy, then rethink your project. Set up a call and we can bust through the “shoulds” to get to the core that makes you tick and what you really want to write about. Your book is the way to draw people to you, so it works best when it reflects what you really want to do. How do you want serve? How do you want to inform and inspire?

I am the grammar police, and I’m also the language police. When your head stuff kicks in and makes you second guess yourself, I give you words, phrases, and I AM statements to post on your computer to keep you on task, and on your joy purpose. I even have joy tattoos that you can put on your own wrist. (If you want one, send me a note to kelly@kellyepperson.com).

I help you birth that book, that book, the one that really excites you. And that brings me joy