Forgiving The Unforgivable - Cyberpaths

When we are fearful we desperately need help. When we were little and became fearful, mummy came to us with help. As we grew older, mummy stopped coming but the fearfulness still remained. And so we had to develop our own skills in order to deal with the constant fear, independently. Sometimes the fearfulness was very acute and we were so desperate for help that our behavior, born of this fearfulness, became regretful.
The liar’s one and only function is to separate and it does this by convincing us of our better-ness and worse-ness over others. What’s interesting about this is that the better-than state is a double lie because it cannot be reached outside of the total annihilation of all life; the liar’s totally insane end-goal. So commonly, even when we are quite sure we are better-than others, we are not at all. Instead, all forms of what we are calling separation psychosis are simply varying degrees of unworthiness that always require punishment.
The liar in our minds has produced all the fear we have ever known. Believing ourselves to be alone and vulnerable, we must experience fear. When fear becomes an acceptable part of life, the constant lies we hear that tell us we are unworthy, valueless, stupid and hated, become reasonable.
The twisting and turning machinations of the liar can persuade us into acting in extremely unhelpful and destructive ways. But we could never act like this if we hadn't mistaken these actions as being a remedy for our fearfulness, the help we so desperately need; actions suggested by a voice not our own that we have trusted in error.
Underneath all aggression, abuse and violence is the true voice of the innocent one that is the real Us. It pleads softly,
“Help me. I do not know what I do.”
Can anyone be justified in responding with anger to such a plea for help?
We may not be aware of this voice and may have managed to convince ourselves that what we are doing is beneficial and enjoyable, even when it is wholly destructive. But our true voice is always there. And power(less) games, when examined honestly, never deliver what is hoped for.
Recently, an innocent sister of ours committed suicide because she had been bullied incessantly by an innocent brother of ours who had found comfort from fear in attacking those he felt weaker than himself. I will not tell the story here because it is on the record, but you can find the details at this page. This is, sadly, not an isolated case and those that are finding comfort from fear by abusing people online under relative anonymity even have a label now. They are called cyberpaths.
The cyberpath is just another projection of the liar into form. It’s done a very good job here, as it always does. It has utilised the anonymity of the internet to provide a place in which it can express itself in a way it was never able to before. Previously, destructive behavior born of the hatred of others was kept at bay due to another very strong liar principle of doing anything we can to avoid appearing ‘bad’ in the eyes of others. Now, the internet has given us the opportunity to wipe away that particular lie of not-offending and we are able to express ourselves in any manner we like, safe in the knowledge that it is highly unlikely we will be found out or our regular lives put in jeopardy.
Who knows what the cyberpath is going through. Undoubtedly it is extremely painful. Whatever suffering they have endured or are enduring we cannot know; but we can be sure that they are suffering.
What we do know is that they will have been told, by the liar , that the power they lack can only be found in the destruction of others. They will have believed this lie and acted upon it. This false power that they seek is born of a deep sense of their own powerlessness, another lie. And the belief in this lie has come from the life experiences that have informed them, time and time again, that they are worthless, no-good, worse-than and deserve punishment. A state of mind like this is intolerable, so misguided, again, they seek to redress their perceived powerlessness in the only way they think they can; by destroying the others that they believe have caused them pain. These others turn out to be the unfortunate representatives of a label they have built-up in their minds.
That they are never relieved of fear does not deter them. In fact, the rush they experience at each petty win over the ‘victim’ most surely addicts them, ensuring they will continue their regrettable activities in the chase for these temporary and vacuous triumphs. They do not know what they do because they do not know why they do it, in truth. And they do not know why they do it because they have no idea about the existence of the liar in their minds.
On the other hand we must look at our innocent sister, the so-called ‘victim’, and ask ourselves what sort of lies could she have believed that caused such a devastating relationship to unfold. Who knows what the ‘prey’ is going through? Whatever it is we can be sure it is extremely painful. Whatever it is we can be sure it is born of fear coming from a personal belief in worthlessness and a lack of love in her life, a need for help. When someone offered her the freedom from fear from which she was desperately asking she had very little choice but to accept. It was the only reasonable option provided.
What is the real difference between the predator and the prey upon? The truth is, none.
And none of us in the same place, ‘predator’ or ‘prey’, would have acted differently under the same circumstances. This is what we need to fully understand and is the key to freeing our minds from the liar . And it is only the liar that causes these sad events in our beautiful, abundant and innocent world.
When we miss the desperate call for assistance in the regrettable actions of our fellows, how can we change the world? If a mind is in torment then we, as One Mind, are in torment. The help we must give is understanding and compassion. When we understand that, up till now, it has only been possible to not know what we have been doing or why, we are able to shine away the dark shadows set up as realities by our minds under dictatorship. By shining our light we deny anything that goes against our true dignity, innocence and eternal beauty. That which is All we are.
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Next time on Forgiving The Unforgivable, we will look at NLP misused by sexual predators.
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