Forgiving The Unforgivable - NLP & Sexual Predators

Before we can free ourselves from the liar we must understand what it is exactly we are freeing ourselves from. And if we do not look at the liar and its activities very closely, how can we hope to know what it is or fully understand our own difficult experiences or those of anyone else? If we do not look, carefully and dispassionately, we are likely to save a place for them and ourselves in our minds in which we are doomed for eternity for our ‘evil’ deeds.
Forgiveness is not saying, “OK, so you did this bad thing, and you recompensed somehow, but we will always remember that you did this bad thing.” This is not forgiveness because this makes all sin real, existing forever. This can’t be right, and isn’t, thank goodness.

Forgiveness comes from the realisation that none of us know what we do. In fact, we have no idea what we are doing or why we are doing it because we are not listening to our own true voice. Instead, we listen to and believe in lies, and act from these mistaken beliefs alone. And nobody has to believe a lie eternally; now that would be daft don’t you think? 

NLP is a recent arrival to the science of mind and a very useful one at that. We have discovered that we can re-train our minds into thinking in positive ways by affirmation practices, such as that suggested by Louise Hay and others. It is a very powerful and efficacious process, the results of which are undeniable. But as you know, I’m not here to tell you about the good stuff we’re doing. I have trickier work. I’m here to tell you that all the bad stuff we’re doing isn’t really bad at all.

Due to the undeniable power of NLP practices over the mind it is no surprise they have found their way into the wrong hands. The hands we are going to discuss here belong to those people finding the fear of their existence so overwhelming that they are persuaded, by the liar in their minds, that they will assuredly find relief from this fear, pain and suffering by overpowering those they believe have hurt them.

These wrong hands are predominantly those of men. This is not surprising because, when we assume ourselves described by the label representing the masculine, we are far more likely to experience the extreme levels of fearfulness required for propelling us into regrettable activities. The liar has split us perceptually down the middle in terms of gender, and the roles given both sides are pretty much wholly agreed upon. You can read a fuller explanation of this in the book.

Strength has been defined as physical dominance over others in the world governed by the liar. Men, in general, have more physical strength than women. However, if men really were the strongest, by definition, then that would be that, end of story. But this definition is just another meaning warped by the liar into serving its own ends, and so the lie needs to be constantly defended because it is NOT true. This erroneous definition of ‘strength’ we’re all agreed upon must defend itself, protect itself and remain constantly on the alert and fearful. If we are strong, in truth, how could we be fearful at the same time?

What we have defined as strength is not strength at all if it has to defend itself constantly. It is a lie and one we have believed in for far too long.

Deeply fearful men are offered the possibility, by the liar in their minds, of relieving themselves of this fear they were born into by abusing women, the weaker sex (apparently). Shadowy NLP practices utilised by sexual predators and pubescent boys are now all over the internet and elsewhere and the only reason why this is so is due to the profound fearfulness of men suffering dire misconceptions about themselves.

Let’s educate ourselves a little bit. Actually, I’ve no desire to link into any of these horrific websites so why not just Google ‘NLP seduction’ and you’ll get a pretty good idea about what some men think is a valuable way to spend their time. Wow, they even have a wiki! This is a very unpleasant business indeed. These are men who have no concern about the autonomy of a female or the personhood of a female. This means that they have no concern about their own autonomy either, because what we see outside is just a reflection of what is going on in our own mind. These are very sick brothers folks, so what can we do?

First, we can imagine what may have caused such fearfulness provoking regrettable actions. We can imagine early experiences of abuse at the hands of women. We can imagine the put-downs, scathing words and more abuse coming from the females they have admired as they got older. We can imagine the severe personal pain ensuing as yet another attempt at connecting with a woman fails spectacularly. We can imagine this suffering becoming very intense, particularly when exacerbated by some sort of perceived physical inadequacy. We can imagine ourselves being seduced into attempting to reset the balance of power in the same way.

The truth is there is not one of us who wouldn’t do the same thing under the same circumstances. And the truth is that the only thing these people are asking for - our family members - is help and understanding, even when they think they are enjoying the temporary and fleeting pleasures of overpowering someone they believe weaker than them; or in this case, someone they actually must consider more powerful, given the need to twist them into powerlessness by misuse of NLP practices.

A bully is always full of fear and needs our help, let’s never forget it.

When we understand what is in the mind of our brother we cannot hate or be angry with him anymore. We must remain sad whilst he hurts, however. And even though the regrettable actions continue and we will nevercondone them, our compassion for our brothers reaches out into the world and touches the hearts that have been closed to true love for eons. This is the work of Forgiving The Unforgivable. 

Forgiveness itself is just a by-product of understanding what the liar is. Because once we know about the liar in our minds and how it has built this grotesque illusion we believe is real, we see that the world could not be any other way than as it is, at this moment. All regrettable acts come about from the belief in lies alone. How can we blame or condemn when we know that we have all been hypnotised by the liar into believing that separation and destruction is our only worthy goal, all behaviour following from this simple mistake.
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Next time on Forgiving The Unforgivable we will look at the Bulger killers. Give me some time on that one please. 

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