In Others’ Words: Failure

 

Now there’s a truth I wish I’d learned years ago: Failure is an event.

An event. 

There’s no denying that we all experience failures of all kinds in this world. Failures caused by our decisions and our choices. Failures caused by the decisions and choices of others. Deliberate actions and accidental missteps — both leading to failures.

But the life-changing truth is I am not the failure. You are not the failure. 

I gotta tell you, this is not how I lived my life for a lot of years. If something went wrong, well then, I failed — and I was a huge, disappointing f-a-i-l-u-r-e. Nobody had to tell me this — although sometimes people did — I knew it already and I made sure to tell myself, over and over again.

It’s okay to admit “Well, that didn’t go the way I planned” or to say “That was a complete bust” or even “I am so disappointed in how things turned out I just want to sit here and cry.”

But it’s vital to remember the event is the failure — not me. Not you.

That’s called giving ourselves grace.

In Your Words: Is failure an event or a person for you? How do you get through (or over or around) failure? 

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