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Watching another person fuck up their own life is hard. I can forgive them for being flawed, if they are aware that what they’re doing is wrong and weak and take responsibility for it or try to get better. After a couple years, though, it’s hard. Give them a little distance and just try to be present for the good times. Let them make their own decisions, but don’t be a part of them, and encourage the good decisions. All you really can do.

I agree. Very well said. I come from a family of tragedy: mental illness, drugs, early deaths. I have had to really separate loving someone and giving them access to my daily life. It was hard when my dad died suddenly because I had less time with him than I might have liked, but he also knew if he wanted to interact with me he had to pull it together, so I had experiences I feel good about when we did see each other.