The B from WorldCon
My wife is always right. And now she’ll have a link on the internet to point to next time I argue otherwise.
There was once an offensive post here. When my wife read it, she laughed, and then she told me people were going to be offended by it. I should have listened to her and modified the post. I didn’t. It upset a lot of people.
I apologized for the post and decided to leave it up. I didn’t want to run or hide from the mistake I made. Then I called my wife, who is currently on the other side of the globe from me, had a good cry, and listened to her advice.
She said I should take the post down. That it would be like leaving a hateful symbol up after you know people are offended by it. I’m sure there is a version out there for those who want to seek it out.
Again, I’m sorry. This is not who I am. I’m just glad I have a strong woman behind me to remind me of that and help me make good decisions.
newest »
Omg you called someone a bitch?! And then you apologized? I'm OK with that. I " heard" she was being one..I didn't read your original blog insert. Oh please you said 1 thing on the internet..get your pitchfoks!! Your an author and you have feelings too lol...we got your back HH..just keep writing :)
Never stop writing! And by the by, some fans will never require an apology from you. How you feel about women and how you express yourself to women has always been an issue for every single man alive, and often enough, they never match up. I saw the post as an attempt to give the elitism of the publishing industry a human face, and how you didn't need to have the approval of snobs.If that face had been a man's, you'd have had applause, but you would still have had people riding you because they believe in the establishment. This is my feeling.
I understand and appreciate the kinds of pressures women undergo in society, and I'm not downplaying this aspect. I'm simply responding to how you, the author, had intended the post. I'm the one who's sorry that aspect hadn't been explored by the other readers. Regardless of what is done and said, you are a good man in my book. Keep Writing!
I know this has been a hard week for you, both physically and emotionally....but don't let this add to your stresses. Echoing what others have already said here and on your blog, some of us don't require an apology, and whatever you do or don't say on your blog doesn't have much, if any effect, on the books you write (I, for one, still have all of the Molly Fyde books on my To Read list and can't wait to get to them - and you know how I feel about the WOOL series!!)I'm sure this was a learning experience though. It has to be an odd thing to suddenly be read by strangers, when you're so used to close friends and family being your only fans. Take it as a sign of celebrity. You can't make everyone happy! And though this probably seems like THE WORST THING EVER right now, by next week, the bloggers will have moved on to their next target, and you'll still be here writing and thrilling readers :)
I read the original post. It didn't offend me, as you weren't talking about me. You didn't give any names, yet these offended individuals all reacted as though you had insulted them personally. Ridiculous, in my opinion. The comments I've read from those people have been rude and nasty. Note that they have no problem expressing their opinion, they just object to yours. I have no respect for that type. I knew that post was tongue in cheek, but it's a fact that humor doesn't always come across well in writing. Add to that people without any sense of humor, and you have a mess. So, you're not perfect. I can't help but think about casting first stones and all, but those offended types don't care to hear such things.
It'll pass, Hugh. Don't take it too personally - you are just this week's target. The group will shuffle on to someone else's yard next week.
