Do You, Adam, Take Steve…

There’s been a lot of talk recently about gay marriage in the U.S. Do you want to know my take on it? I’m going to tell you anyway (it’s one of the benefits of having my own blog). My website is called CouplesCommittedToLove.com, not HeterosexualsCommittedToLove.com. Why don’t I specify male/female relationships? Because I’m all about relationships and romance. Relationships occur between family members, friends, and lovers; and lovers don’t have to be male/female.[image error]

No, I’m not gay, and to be honest, it doens’t even matter what my beliefs are. I am here to help couples who are in love. If you read my posts, you will see that when discussing physical intimacy, I don’t judge. Look, if it doesn’t hurt anyone and both adults consent, have at it in the bedroom. I may not want to follow suit, but it’s not for me to say what adults do behind closed doors. 

The same applies to this whole gay marriage thing. So, I’m not married to a man, and I don’t want to marry a man, but who am I to say that men shouldn’t get married to one another? I know. Some argue that it’s morally wrong. But, what are our morals based on? Very often they are founded on our religious beliefs. So, if a religion decides that there’s no gay marriage in its church, so be it. If you are gay, go to a different church. But, when it comes to marriage and our government, we are not to look at religious beliefs (separation of Church and State, right?). 

“But, marriage sends a bad message to our chldren,” I’ve heard argued. What’s that massage? Are we afraid that little girls will grow up to marry other women? Really, are we so frightened that we think gay marriage will tip the scales in a battle versus straight marriage? Come on! 

“Well, it’s morally wrong!” Oh, that again. What about gambling? Burn down Vegas and Atlantic City. What about pornography? Arrest the folks who run adult sites and torch the Playboy Mansion. What about cigarettes and beer? Look, we don’t get to impose our moral beliefs on a society.

“But marriage exists so men and women can propagate the species..to have babies. Two women can’t do that!” Uh oh, what are we going to do with all the married couples who choose to go childless? What about those who want a child, but can’t conceive for one reason or another? And, what about those couples who have not tied the knot but still have had children ? Guess we better run all these folks off to jail or a remote island somewhere in the Atlantic.

I know, I’m being a bit ludicrous, but I’m not the only one. Marriage is for adults who want to commit to one another for life. It doesn’t hurt me if they are man and woman, if she is 26 and he is 87, if he’s Black and she’s Filipino, if she’s a wealthy doctor and he flips burgers at a fast food restaurant or if she is a woman and so is she.