Just What the Hell are We Jacking/Jilling Off To?
Right up front, I'm not really sure how I feel about the term jilling off, but it is amusing. I'm just not sure it's sexy. I kind of prefer rubbing one out as a general term for masturbation, applicable to both sexes, but whatever works for you is fine by me. That's not really the point of this post anyway.
From talking to a number of people about sex, and of course spending too much time on google (I like to pretend that doing google searches on various fetishes and sexual scenarios is actually part of my job), it has come to my attention that, for a lot of people, the amount of porn they consume contributes to the dirtiness of the fetishes they are into. For most of them, it starts out simple, with looking at basic male-female sex videos. But over time, they need more variety to get the same buzz. In that way it's something like an addiction, and the next thing they know they're watching a girl with a pig tail butt plug shoved in her ass being spanked by men dressed as monkeys.
I'm probably in the minority having this opinion, but I think this escalation in pornography is a good thing. I find there to be something almost sad about a person sitting around watching the same basic scenes over and over again, the only thing that changes being the faces and how much cum the man covers the woman's face with. I am pro-variety, pro-fantasy, and pro-pornography, so long as it's not being detrimental to your relationship. If watching videos of elbow-deep anal fisting doesn't negatively impact your relationship, then watch away.
Though there is something inherently interesting about the way people get deeper and deeper into pornography, the more interesting question for me is whether or not erotica works the same way. Do erotica readers start out small, reading slightly dirty scenes and then escalating to stories about having sex with bigfoot (I know sometimes it seems like I have an obsession with bigfoot sex, but it's only because it never ceases to amuse me that there is a whole series of those stories available for the Kindle)? Or do we start out a little dirtier, because we seek erotica in keeping with our own fantasies in the first place, and thus we have already skipped the basic male-female sex scenes (or is romance the replacement for those instead)?
From the point of view of the writer of erotic stories, I haven't seen this escalation. Though my early stories were definitely tamer than some of my recent stuff, some of the stuff I published a few months ago was far dirtier than some of the stuff I'm publishing now. I think that's a good thing. Endless escalation would eventually ruin the creative process, because I would spend all my time trying to come up with something even more out there, and eventually I would either run out of ideas or the ideas would no longer be arousing to me.
From talking to a number of people about sex, and of course spending too much time on google (I like to pretend that doing google searches on various fetishes and sexual scenarios is actually part of my job), it has come to my attention that, for a lot of people, the amount of porn they consume contributes to the dirtiness of the fetishes they are into. For most of them, it starts out simple, with looking at basic male-female sex videos. But over time, they need more variety to get the same buzz. In that way it's something like an addiction, and the next thing they know they're watching a girl with a pig tail butt plug shoved in her ass being spanked by men dressed as monkeys.
I'm probably in the minority having this opinion, but I think this escalation in pornography is a good thing. I find there to be something almost sad about a person sitting around watching the same basic scenes over and over again, the only thing that changes being the faces and how much cum the man covers the woman's face with. I am pro-variety, pro-fantasy, and pro-pornography, so long as it's not being detrimental to your relationship. If watching videos of elbow-deep anal fisting doesn't negatively impact your relationship, then watch away.
Though there is something inherently interesting about the way people get deeper and deeper into pornography, the more interesting question for me is whether or not erotica works the same way. Do erotica readers start out small, reading slightly dirty scenes and then escalating to stories about having sex with bigfoot (I know sometimes it seems like I have an obsession with bigfoot sex, but it's only because it never ceases to amuse me that there is a whole series of those stories available for the Kindle)? Or do we start out a little dirtier, because we seek erotica in keeping with our own fantasies in the first place, and thus we have already skipped the basic male-female sex scenes (or is romance the replacement for those instead)?
From the point of view of the writer of erotic stories, I haven't seen this escalation. Though my early stories were definitely tamer than some of my recent stuff, some of the stuff I published a few months ago was far dirtier than some of the stuff I'm publishing now. I think that's a good thing. Endless escalation would eventually ruin the creative process, because I would spend all my time trying to come up with something even more out there, and eventually I would either run out of ideas or the ideas would no longer be arousing to me.
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