What to Do When Life Gets Crazy!

We all have these times in life when things get a little out-of-control.
These are usually events that seem to come out of nowhere or simply tip the balance of an already stressful time. It could be an illness, a shift in a relationship, an accident or a change at work.

I’ve been having one of those times in the past year. It’s been interesting to put all of my intuition and personal growth practices into play to stay as centered as possible. Many of the things that have been happening are good things — I wrote and published two books ( Divine Intuition and The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Psychic Intuition .) My husband and I talked about downsizing and began recycling twenty years + of stuff that we had
accumulated. I travelled and worked in Japan during the month of November. However, even good things can also be stressful! Added to this, my elderly parents have been in and out of the hospital and we finally made the decision to put my mom in hospice.

One of my favorite intuition techniques is to place my hand over my heart and simply ask, “What am I yearning for?” The answer popped into my mind immediately. It was peace, calm, fun and adventure.

We have now sold our house. We’re moving in May to Cape Cod (the southeastern coast of Massachusetts. I’m feeling very excited about having fun, creating adventures and meeting new people. The Cape is a place of quiet nature, known for miles of bike and walking trails through conservation land. . I’m also adding a small meditation space to my new digs!

What else helped me get through these trying times? Here are four ideas for you to try…
1) It Will All Work Out
During this time of immense change, I found myself walking around saying, “I’m so stressed!” “I’m so stressed!” All I got in doing that was more stress! I finally caught myself and decided to shift my thinking. It helps to remember that most of the crises in life are self-limiting. Phrases like, “This will all work out.” “Let me just go with the flow.” And, “I’m open to life’s possibilities” were some of my favorites. I also kept reminding myself to not resist the changes; they were there to lead me to a more expanded and happier state if I could allow it.
2) Have Fun!
Winston Churchill once noted, “If you’re going through hell, keep going!” There’s no need to stay stuck in your awful situation. Whatever it is, it can co-exist with something upbeat, energizing and fun. What’s fun for you? Depending on your circumstances it can be as simple as walking the dog, dancing to some music, sitting in your yard with a cup of coffee and listening to the bird’s sing. Make a list! Do at least one a day. You’ll feel better and so will everyone around you. Enlist their help.
3) You Only Have to Know One Thing
Another one of my favorite intuition techniques when I’m overwhelmed (or feeling stuck) is to close my eyes, take a deep, relaxing breath and ask, “What’s my right next step?” Usually an answer comes to me quickly. Sometimes an intuitive response will pop into my mind later in the day when I least expect it. I like this technique because sometimes the next step is all we need to know!
4) It’s Normal to Feel Scared
Former first lady Eleanor Roosevelt wrote, “You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, “I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.” Fear is not something you fight. It’s something you make room for in your life. Embrace it and make it your ally, not your enemy.