How we play the game

[image error]"It's not whether you win or lose, it's how you play the game."   I know from long experience as a mother on the sidelines how easy it is to say those words to our children -- and how, although we really, really do mean it, we also (perhaps secretly) really want them to win, too. The truth is, we would prefer them to have it all, the grace under pressure, the good sportsmanship, and the sweetness of a hard-won conquest.

He looks so much like his dad, my son Jack.  I see it in the way he...