Why is it okay to blame and harass sexual assault victims?

I am so sick of sexual assault victims being blamed for being attacked. Who are these people? I'm livid. This is such a parenting issue about preventative measures, teaching your children (boys and girls, from a very early age) about appropriate behavior in interpersonal relationships and on social media, and what to do if you see it or encounter it. This seems so freaking common sense. 



Why is it okay to violate somebody? Anybody? Ever? And why would you ever blame those violated for the attack or for speaking up and reporting it when it happens? There is just no empathy or understanding, and totally misplaced priorities. Some conversations are NOT being had. I'm disturbed, sad, and pissed.



I posted this on Facebook, but wanted to hear your comments and feedback in this space. Thanks for your thoughts.



Background and more on Steubenville rape case via NPR.