There’s More to Him than You Can See Right Now

I was chatting with a young woman who attended the college Bible study we were leading. She didn’t like the idea of getting married, because she thought it would get so boring living with the same person forever.

Silly girl.

I said “I do” a few decades ago to this guy I loved, but I had no idea the package I was getting.

I didn’t know how attentive he would be to me, calling me several times a day just to see if I was doing okay.

I didn’t know the level of integrity he would have, not even allowing me to share his soda at Taco Bell. (He wanted a refill, and it wouldn’t be right for me to drink some and then for him to go for more.)

I didn’t know how blind he would be, never seeming to notice my weaknesses, even when I pointed them out to him.

I didn’t know how protective he would be, getting all fiery mad when he found out a guy yelled at me for parking in the wrong place.

I didn’t know he would become a pastor one day. A good one.

I didn’t know how crazy loyal he would be to people, loving them through thick and thin.

I didn’t know how much in love with him I would feel when he strongly and tenderly cared for our kids. Could never have imagined what an amazing dad he would make.

I didn’t know he would still think I was smokin’ hot when I was 43, with these crow’s feet at my eyes and a bit of stomach hanging over the waist line.

For those of you who are in those new years of marriage, I encourage you to watch for ways your man’s depth of personality and character begin to rise to the surface. Call attention to those qualities you discover. Thank him for them. Tell your girlfriends about what you’re seeing. The purposeful act of discovering the richness of your spouse will keep your marriage fresh for decades.