My evening with Bill Clinton
I recently spent an evening listening to one of the great speakers of our time. One of the things he spoke about was how his upbringing helped him. Until the age of ten, his family had no television so entertainment consisted of tales told around the dinner table. The rule before speaking was that you had to first retell the previous person’s story. In other words, before speaking it was necessary to master the art of listening.
Actually sharing a meal around a table of conversationalists might be just as rare as finding a family without a TV today. But, learning to listen well enough to retell someone else’s story is a valuable tool.
Another tip from former President Clinton about influences from his childhood was the importance of showing children possibilities. When Bill was about twelve, the then Governor of Arkansas allowed school children to visit the Governor’s office. During a school field trip, Bill sat at the Governor’s desk and imagined for the first time a future course of his life. Sometimes a small thing can be a huge thing in the life of a child. Whatever else we do in our lives, taking an opportunity to encourage a child is always a good thing.
Clinton also encouraged me to listen to those I disagree with. First, because none of us are always right. There will be times when adversaries have good ideas. Also, by listening and appreciating good ideas of others, there is a better chance for success in getting my own ideas to succeed. I found this advice hardest to accept.
He also reminded me to allow my adversaries to save public face—even if I have to be tough behind closed-doors.
Bill Clinton looked almost frail. He is now an older man who has become a vegan and has dropped weight since his time as President. However, he never paused or stumbled for a word during his fascinating, fact-filled two hour talk. He was charming, eloquent and direct. It only seemed like he was talking to me. There were thousands equally enthralled in the auditorium.
