On losing grhasthas to maya

Our grhastha devotees, unless they remain in connection to attend our temple
functions, if they remain aloof from the temple community, gradually the
karmi poison will make them lost. You cannot expect them to be like
Bhaktivinoda Thakura or myself. They are neophytes. Unless these things
are continued, the karmi poison will spoil. They can live independently,
but they must be connected to devotional service. … Now, if he goes away
after so much training, it is a great loss to our Society. … The whole
idea is to give up attachment to the material world and to become attached
to Krsna. Now, according to one’s position, gradually param drstva
nivartate. The karmis’ association is very contaminating-asat-sanga. There
is chance. … He should not be dependent on the Society and at the same
time not independent. The Society cannot take charge of one’s family. So
many will come; how it is possible? At the same time, if they remain
independent, the karmis’ poison will affect. Krsna-conscious, ideal
grhastha-that, we want. Just like Bhaktivinoda Thakura. I was a grhastha.
Deity worship, everything was there. I was publishing Back to Godhead from
grhastha asrama. … One must live in the temple or near the temple. If a
brahmacari makes love [after getting married] and lives at the cost of
Society, that is to be discouraged.
… My fear is that after training our men so much, if he is lost, it’s a
great loss. Future of our Society will be hopeless. But if someone can’t
maintain his family, why he should get married? If he has no power of
maintaining, why he should marry?
>>> Ref. VedaBase => TKG: July 19