Trust, where has it gone?

Ok, I have a beef. Half of you will share my beef and the other half will tell me that I shouldn’t judge. Feel free to tell me which half you are. [image error]

I hate, hate, HATE that I cannot just help people without having to question their motives. For example: a couple of weeks ago I was shopping. On my way out of Walmart there was a red van parked in the very back of the parking lot with a cardboard sign on the back that said, “Help, out of Gas.” There was a lady in the car while her husband stood up near the corner with another sign, stating that they was out of gas. Now, some of you are rolling your eyes. Really, Devri? And you fell for it? Ok, I kinda did. New ploy, hadn’t seen it. My husband, on the other hand, was rock solid and refused to let me help.

Today I go to the same Walmart and what do I see? The same red van, opposite side of the parking lot, wife in car happily munching on chips, husband on corner with a sign, “Out of Gas, please help.” Really? Really? What a strange and bizarre coincidence that you would run out of gas- IN THE EXACT SAME SPOT!

I am so frustrated that I cannot just trust people. I hate than I have to question everyone’s motives. And who gets screwed? The person that actually needed the help. I cannot afford to give money to everyone, so if I am going too, I want it to go to someone who is actually in need. Someone who is not working the system. It makes me mad, and breaks my heart all at the same time. Because I can’t know.

I don’t know if they are really in need, if they are really out of gas, if they have their kids sitting next to them because the situation is really that bad, or just because they have no shame and will use their own children to manipulate you. I just don’t know. So what happens? I do what most of you do. Nothing. I do give to organizations that I trust to distribute it to those truly in need. But, sometimes I just wish I could trust someone when they tell me they are in need and just help.