Ask Shallon: How Can I Get My Ex Back?

Dear Shallon,

Me and my boyfriend “broke” up on Friday. We were dating for 3 weeks, but his reason for initiating the break up was that he wants to be just friends until we build more feelings because he feels we rushed into the relationship. What can I do to make sure we get back together?

–Katie

 

If there’s one thing boys hates, it’s to feel pressured. I know, I know, you probably didn’t force him into a being your BF, but boys are wussy and like to complain, so he feels trapped and hey, why not blame you!

So, he’s backing away and using this “let’s build our relationship” crap as an excuse to have his freedom but still keep you on the hook. You know when you build a relationship? When you’re in the relationship. It’s like job training–you get it on the job. DURRR.

Actually you ARE getting back together, just follow my advice!

So, you need to call his bluff. If he wants space, you give him S-P-A-C-E. You respond to every third text with one word answers. You are busy when he wants to hang out. You do not speak about him to anyone. He must be absolutely convinced that you’re over it. Because if there’s one thing boys love, it’s a chase.

Seriously, dudes love this ish

Icing him out will take a serious amount of self control on your part but you MUST do it if you want him back, trust me. Only when he makes you an offer–of BF/GF status, or an actual date not just a rando “hang out”–can you soften up and consider it.

But, maybe then you won’t even want him anymore. Maybe then Harry Styles will be knocking down your door.

Oh calm down, he's legal

Hmm no that probably won’t happen. He’ll probably still be at my house.

 

xoxo,

Shallon