I just want to feel...

Men feel estranged by a lack of sex in a relationship. Is a lack of intimacy more alienating than the lack of sex? Perhaps, but certainly one, or other, sentiment is destructive and several posters to an online men's forum that I use are considering affairs, prostitutes or leaving home because they just don't feel loved.

I went to Mumsnet because I thought it was a good place to seek a woman's perspective and to try and make women aware of how damaging this is to a relationship. Perhaps I got the pitch wrong for it appears that I have been blacklisted; my posts are deleted automatically.

The thread was that a woman should leave her husband because he'd been to a strip club. There was lots of diatribe about sexploitation, etc, and that such a bloke can't be trusted. I suggested that strip clubs are mere animation and that the best way to ensure a man's commitment is to make sure he's getting enough action at home. The thread continued (at length) and it was quite scary reading some of the posts: Virginia Woolf seems quite chilled by comparison.

http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relations...

There was another thread as to whether or not a woman should make a sex tape with her boyfriend. The consensus was negative because he might show it to other people. I suggested that if she was concerned about other people seeing it, she should put on a good performance like 'When Harry Met Sally'.

I am not expecting a Christmas card from MumsNet.

They also said my book was likely to be misogynistic crap!

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Trouble-Girls...