R-E-S-P-E-C-T

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Anywho… the reason I’m talking about respect…

I followed a link from Cassandra Carr to the BDSM Authors Playroom blog. The topic was being a BDSM couple in public and how to go about it. I’m pulling this paragraph because it got me thinking:

As far as the treatment/respect thing goes, a service submissive can still serve her Master no matter where they are. At a party? Maybe the sub can make sure the Dom’s drink is never empty, or that he always has someone to talk to. Maybe the sub could watch for signs of fatigue and make sure the Dom sits, or the sub can rub his shoulders.

The reason I pointed this out is that it strikes me as sad that this is considered a sub/Dom thing. Serving the Dom. Making sure his drink is never empty? Shouldn’t we be doing that in all relationships? Isn’t that just the thoughtful, gracious thing to do? And I’m not just talking about ladies filling their fella’s glass. Oh no boys, you’re not getting off (haha) that easily. I think it’s the man’s responsibility to make sure his woman is having a good time. That her drink is full. That her feet are well massaged.

But I digress.

If the only way I’m going to be in a thoughtful, mutually respectful relationship where we make sure the other person is having a good time, drinks are filled, no one is too tired, and bodies parts are massaged is via a Dom/sub relationship then sign me up. But I really hope that this sort of thoughtful relationship isn’t exclusive to those in the lifestyle. Perhaps we all just need lessons on that front.