What Is This I Don't Even: If we wanna talk about bad allies

What Is This I Don't Even: If we wanna talk about bad allies:

onionhighonionandrenown:

gailsimone:

athenaltena:

I once witnessed a straight girl go absolutely ballistic when she was denied access to Gay Prom, with her justification being that she’d gone with her male Gay Best Friend™ (who, by the by, was not even present at this gay prom, so it’s not even that she was a guest of a gay person, just…

This is exactly why I am skeptical of the concept of allies almost automatically. It so often seems to be about THEM, everything ends up being about THEM, and not the people they are supposed to be allied WITH.

I know not everyone is like that, but it sure comes up a lot.

Well, sure — there are a lot of assholes in this world.  Should those of us who support the varied and various QUILTBAG communities pick a different world to describe ourselves, then?

I am not in any position to suggest how people label themselves and I am as guilty of this as anyone else, but even this question seems to be about US and how we are perceived, which kind of seems like a non-problem to me. It seems to take away oxygen from actual marginalized people and focuses it elsewhere.

Don’t mind me, I’m just grumbling.