ADLW Day #6: When Having an Affair Is Good

[image error]I’ll admit it. I’ve never had an extramarital affair. the closest I have come was in college when I was dating a girl who studies abroad for a year in England. We had one of those “open relationships”. I took advantage of it, dated another girl, and eventually fell in love with her and married her… not technically cheating, though, right?

Anyway, I am going to advocate that if your relationship is losing its steam, go on and have an affair… with your partner. That’s right, not an extramarital affair, but a marital affair.

What? Doesn’t sound as exciting as you had hoped? Don’t blame me! Look, people have affairs because the excitement in their relationships have fizzled. They want that passion back, so they find someone else and suddenly Mother Nature is giving them the hormones and brain chemicals they remember when they first started dating. It’s a rush. It’s a high. It’s exciting and they love it! Problem is, though, they probably don’t love the person they are cheating with.

The great thing about affairs is the incredible sex, the passion and the excitement. On the “con” side, you are cheating on someone you care about, you may ruin your relationship, the “high” will eventually subside, and you are not in love!

What if we could have incredible sex, be excited, and keep the passion without hurting the person you care about, without ruining your relationship and you do it with someone you already love? Well, that’s what I’m proposing.

Treat your relationship like an affair. That means, get up and do things. People who cheat go on trips. They go out to dinner. They attend concerts. Also, use your bed for more than sleeping. Infidelity is synonymous with having sex. So, up the quantity, the quality and try new positions and locations. Finally, make yourself presentable. When you are prepping for an evening with your “lover” you shave, do your hair and make-up, put on cologne or perfume. you Shower and put on something a bit better than your Homer Simpson t-shirt and sweats. And, don’t forget about your undergarments. Clean would be good. New would be better. Sexy would be best.

I know. I can already hear you: “All of this takes too much work, effort and time. Who would invest so much for a fake affair?” I’ll tell you who: someone who is cheating on his partner. Look, if you are going to spend the time, effort and energy to rediscover passion and excitement with someone you don’t love, might as well invest the same with your partner, get back the passion and excitement, as well as making your partner happy and keeping your relationship together. I’m just saying.

This is probably the only affair that will help you avoid a divorce lawyer.

Need more specifics on having a marital affair? Check out this four-minute video.