Support for Those of Us Lacking

Hi, This post is for all of those who have toxic people in their lives and any Indie authors who can relate. I have been on a roller coaster these past six or so months and a learning curve.
Yesturday I had a nasty run in with a relative of the green eyed monster kind. She is a self proclaimed critic now, though everyone assures me if she hasn't read the book her comments carry no validity.
So thats the last I'll say about it. We are all challenged at some point in our lives by bullies. If you're not or haven't been, consider yourself lucky - or a bully. All authors suffer criticism, rejection and bad reviews. It's a terrible fact. It's like the bad things in general life multiply when you put your toil and emotional heartache into something and set it free for others to judge and hopefully enjoy. You have to stand up for yourself and know inside you that no one can change what you know.
There is a big difference between constructive criticism and sour grapes.
Every time someone tries to cut me down I ignore them and then I work harder. Good people are happy for others successes. I have had far more positive feed back. Good people help eachother. In the words of Brice Dalas Howard 'the hardest thing for a human to do is accept'. So those poisonous people, they may throw a few tantrums but eventually they'll go away. Its like a healing crisis, things get worse and then they are a lot better.
I am now in all the Book Boys in S.A. Dillons Books, Dymocks Rundle Mall.
To achieve this I had to call around - despite the fact that this terrified me. And I took my light with me, my enthusiasm and all the wonderful feelings of support offered by kind people. That is what I think about. How confident I am that my story is excellent, that it will sell very well and that I am successful. Thanks for making my light so wonderfully bright.
And as a note to myself and others having the same issues - Don't let anyone tell you that you can't. Stand up for yourself and have strength in your convictions. Real friends support change for the better.They will never tear you down.
Love Tina

"You have no power over me." - The Labrynth.

"The taller the tree the harder the wind blows." - Chinese proverb.

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This a beautiful post that I recieved from Kevis on indie authors goodreads site post.

Tina, as someone who truly has had 'editorial issues' in earlier books of mine (despite using an army of professional editors), I can certainly feel your pain. I'm not sure I'd put much stock in your publisher singing your book's praises. I published my first book with Outskirts Press, too, and hindsight has taught me to take the opinion of people with a financial interest in your book with a grain of salt.

With that said, I've downloaded your book and started reading it. Let me first say that whenever I hear an author lamenting criticism, I usually roll my eyes. But in your case, I have to scratch my head. I find your book (so far) to be beautifully written and well-edited. I can't speak to any glaring mistakes because I haven't encountered any.

It could simply be a case of your relative simply not liking your book, which is okay if he or she honestly doesn't like the kind of books you write. But if they are claiming that your book is poorly written, then there really might be something to your claim of them trying to tear you down (or the very least, they are ignorant about what constitutes good or bad editing).

Anyway, I'm very much enjoying your book so far and will go ahead and finish reading it. If you want, I can PM you later if I discover any issues with it. If there isn't and it ends as terrifically as it's started, I'll be more than happy to post a review for your book. From the little that I've read, it looks like I'll have nothing but good things to say about it.