Make Your List

The Lord placed in my heart at a young age the importance of saving myself for my husband. Part of saving myself meant I didn’t want the temptation of giving pieces of my heart away in high-school flings when marriage wasn’t even an option. I made the commitment not to let myself get into a relationship with a guy before I was 18 years old (my dad knew about this commitment, and he held me to it).

Many of us are encouraged to make a “list” while we are single of all the attributes we want in a man – which I did, but I also decided to try something new during this time. I made a list for myself of the attributes I needed before I was married in order to be a genuine blessing to my husband. I have been married just over a year now, but I have to confess that I am still working on this list (most of it). Some of the things I wrote make me look back and laugh (I still couldn’t make a a steak if my life depended on it).

I encourage girls to make a list, and commit yourself to it! It won’t look exactly like mine, but pray and commit yourself to whatever the Lord lays on your heart!

1. I have to learn to respect the men most dear to me now: my dad and my brothers

2. I have to learn to constantly put others first in my life.

3. I have to learn to cook an amazing steak

4. I have to learn to be discipline in the small things in my life now (money, food, exercising, scheduling)

5. I have to learn how to carry on a good, solid conversation. Not just small talk —- *this was coming from a very shy girl*

6. I have to memorize Proverbs 31:10-31 and apply is to my heart – Remember it!

7. I have to learn to be kind and gentle in conduct and speech.

8. I have to learn to be a strong woman. One that does not rely on my own strength, but one that fully relies on the Lord for her strength.

9. I have to learn to keep my room clean.

10. I have to learn how to be as feminine as I can be. Not someone who plays down on the girl she is, but one who is proud to be a woman like God made her.