Flirty Friday: Being single sucks
Today’s Flirty Friday is a little different than my normal ones. Usually, I’ll take a message I received from a dude and dissect it and snark it for you guys. But today, I wanted to talk about something just a little different.
A friend of mine recently started feeling the frustration of being single. She’s a successful professional, in her twenties, and she’s kind of awesome. If I were a dude, I’d totally date her. The funny thing about this, is that it’s something I’ve been feeling for a while, which is why I haven’t done Flirty Fridays in a few weeks. I’m frustrated, too.
Being Single Sucks
Yeah, it does. I’ve been married. I have kids. Both of those things make guys run in the opposite direction, or I get the really shady types or the ones who don’t like good hygiene. Dating is hard work, and for the last couple years, it’s just been easier to not do it. My best friend recently got married (I say recently… it was last year) and ever since then, I’m tired of not having that support system, or having that person to share things with.
The green-eyed monster isn’t cute
I fully admit that I’m jealous. I see people with more baggage than me, worse attitudes than mine… and they always have a date. They’re always in a relationship. My best friend is not one of these people, but I watched her from the moment she got a divorce start dating. There might have been a couple months in between, but not much. She dropped one guy when he stood her up, and found another guy. That guy married her last May. They had a child together in February. She’s happy. I’m jealous as hell, even though I love her. I’m still single.
I know I’m whining. I toyed with the idea of doing a dating blog separate from this one, but really, it would never work out. I’d lose interest pretty quick.
I remember that I used to go from guy to guy when I was younger, but I knew it wouldn’t go anywhere. Now that my kids are older, I’m realizing that I’ve sort of killed off any real social life I have. I like going to bars, and hanging out and meeting people. And because I have kids, I haven’t been. I’ve been sticking it out at home. I have more girl friends than guy friends (which has never happened to me before) so I don’t even find the opportunity to meet or get to know guys.
A possible solution?
I’m thinking about suggesting a weekly social night with friends. Just something to get me out of the house and into public. I know something needs to change, but I’m not sure what yet.
So what do you think? Should I actually make the effort to date? Is it worth it just to eradicate the melancholy I’m feeling? What’s your best experiences dating? Worst?
