Sometimes the Problem is YOU

At the end of last year I hated my job so bad I wanted to quit and work any job I could find, even at Mc Donald’s.

When I thought about the job and the things I didn’t like, I combined those problems with other problems that I had in my life. This made the job and everything associated with the job ten times worse, no wonder I wanted out so bad.

Now I want to move on but it’s because I know that I have a higher caller, I know the Lord has more for me and that’s the path that I’m on. Lately though I’ve been thinking back on my twelve-year bread career and all the crazy things that have happened.

One thing that stands out the most is the relationship I have with the person I work for now, things have come full circle.

This post is my formal apology!

I started out working at a factory second shift and working my bread business part-time. The bread business grew and I started working for the person I’m working for now, that was over ten years ago.

He used my services so much I was able to quit my job at the factory and do my bread business full-time, yeah! The work he gave me made up sixty percent of my income, so I made sure to always do good work, until……….

As I made better money then I had ever made, my lifestyle increased and it started affecting my work because I would stay up too late. I was too tired at times to do a good job and I figured that if someone didn’t like it I was the only show in town.

So my number one customer would ask me about this and that and he was right but I didn’t want to be bother with it. Eventually this lead to a major problem, that lead to a large argument and a parting of ways.

We didn’t talk for years and I would tell everyone who would listen that he was the problem and he was unreasonable. When you tell a story you always emphasize how they’re wrong and you’re right, I lied so much I was convinced.

I don’t remember how we patched things up but I’m glad we did and for the last two and a half years I’ve worked for him exclusively. I started with him as my biggest customer and I’ll be ending my bread career with him as my only customer J

As I’ve thought about the times when we’ve had problems I’ve had to be honest and admit to myself that I was the problem.

I have to ask you now to be honest with yourself, have you been the problem?

Think of the times when you’ve had problems with coworkers or a problem with your boss, were you the problem? At the time it may have felt like they were and you were completely innocent but is that true?

By nature we our self-fish and we don’t want to admit when we’re wrong but at some point this has to change, you have to be honest if you are going to move forward in your life.

Now I do realize that you’re not always the problem but all I’m asking for is an honest examination of any tension you have towards someone else. See if you need to apologize and restore that relationship if possible.

Life is too short to hold onto any bitterness and to loose relationships that are important to you, especially if the problem is really you.

This week let’s all be honest and if there is a problem with someone else, see if there’s a way to repair or avoid any tension, let’s see if the problem is with us.

Has there been a time when you were the problem?