Relationships run on compatibility, not potential

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A viewer writes: My boyfriend doesn’t want marriage or family (children). Our values aren’t the same.

Relationships run on compatibility, not potential. If you want marriage and a family and he’s made it clear he doesn’t, you’re not “working through a problem”—you’re in a relationship with someone whose life goals directly contradict yours. That’s not something you negotiate or “wait out.”

When core values don’t line up, the relationship has already hit its ceiling. You can either give up what you want or accept that he’s not the guy. Don’t waste years hoping someone will suddenly want what you’ve always wanted. Find a man whose vision for the future matches yours. It really is that simple.