Vedic system for wives

Another item is, you are married wife, so in that position you should serve
your husband nicely always, being attentive to his needs, and in this way,
because he is always absorbed in serving Krishna, by serving your husband
you will also get Krishna, through him. He is your spiritual master, but he
must be responsible for giving you all spiritual help, teaching you as he
advances his own knowledge and realization. That is the vedic system: The
wife becomes a devotee of her husband, the husband becomes a devotee of
Krishna; the wife serves her husband faithfully, the husband protects his
wife by giving her spiritual guidance. So you should simply do whatever your
husband instructs you to do, however he may require your assistance. Of
course, the nature of woman is to be attached to her husband and family, so
our system is to minimize this attachment by making the ultimate goal of our
activity the pleasure of Krishna. Just try to please Krishna always, and no
material circumstances will be able to cause you any discomfort.
>>> Ref. VedaBase => Letter to: Saucarya — Vrindaban 23 October, 1972